This is the number 1 question I’ve gotten in the last decade.
What is the secret to my success?
Most people want to know how I know what I know, especially in business. Did I get it from my parents? Nope. My Dad was a blue collar worker and my Mom a stay at home mom. Do I have a business degree? Nope. I have a B.S. in Psychology which typically gets you a nice job waiting tables (which I did for 8 years!).
But at age 26, I jumped into entrepreneurship, opening three fitness centers in three years. I then bought an existing company and invested in real estate. By my early 30s, I was a millionaire (which was really strange for me to get my head around). To be clear, I was not earning a million, but I had established a nice 6 figure income and had built up assets in business and homes that reached over 1 million.
I also had some pretty significant accomplishments by most peoples standards outside of business. I completed marathons, competed and placed high in triathlons, and running events. I raced in a 36 hour long Adventure Race (biking, running, paddling, navigating carrying all food/water and no sleep!).
I bought my second dream home in 2008 and started two new companies all while raising a young daughter as a single chic-a-dee.
Some folks see me as highly driven. But I’m actually pretty laid back, and I’m motivated entirely by freedom. Freedom to ride my bike, eat good food, read lots of books, and catch some great movies. I love being at home and tend to be quite an introvert.
So even though I’m pretty laid back, I seem to have harnessed some mighty power that has led to some pretty great successes. I have observed that I often experience, expand, risk, and accomplish more in one year than most do in a decade or heck, even their entire lives.
I continually get asked: How do you do it?
What I’m not laid back about is sharing with others how I can help them get what they want. I’m passionate about that. And the awesome part is that anyone can begin using this stuff right now.
So what’s my secret?
The foundation of all my successes and accomplishments is built from understanding and working two things.
#1 I Ask One Question Every Morning. I ask myself (every single day) is this what I want? I mean, I literally wake up and think about my day and if I am not excited to jump out of bed and get going then something isn’t working. And I don’t ACCEPT that. I say, “OK, what’s going on here? What is it about today, I don’t like? What in my life isn’t working? What do I need to do to change?” And I get busy on that. Immediately.
Sometimes I don’t have the answers. I don’t’ know what to do, so I get busy with the search and continually reflect and ask myself questions until I know what the next step is.
I know I’m the creator of my life. Once you create the life you love, it’s easy to tweak here and there and stay on course, so even as life changes and grows, you still wake up with, “Awesome, I love my life.” Or you might just need to dig into one area and course correct.
And yes, if you haven’t asked this question in a long time, you might have A LOT to change. That’s OK, get busy. Pick one area and get going. It’s up to you my friend.
Know what makes you happy. Know what brings you a fulfilling life. Do the work. Check in with yourself every single day.
#2 I THINK and LIVE outside of conventionality. Since I was a kid, I have never blindly believed or adopted what my parents (sorry Mom & Dad!) or teachers shared with me or taught. I have never bought into the standards and norms of society. I have never played by anyone else’s rules. Now in my 40s, I still don’t. Living MY TRUTH is the only operating system I use.
Are you creating your own life or living one designed by society?
So how can you begin to use these two principles to accomplish ANYTHING you want?
First, learn to listen to your gut, your internal GPS (this is Divine Guidance or what I call your Inner Spark). We all have it although it may be buried under a lot of shoulds, expectations, and old programming.
To turn on your GPS you must slow down, become aware, tune in, ask the tough questions, listen, and feel. What is it that you really really want? What’s coming up for you? Remember true lasting success is about happiness and fulfillment. It is not about chasing THE dream life, but about building YOUR dream life. Understand the difference. You have the only blueprint that matters.
Second, trust yourself. Stop asking for permission and approval. Stop expecting other people to get you or understand your dreams. Stop collecting votes for the go ahead. You’ll never have enough. You only need one vote…yours.
Get that to be truly successful, you DON’T want to follow the majority or the masses. At least not at this time in history, unless you view the majority as thriving, happy, healthy, and jumping out of their beds each day for another day of passion filled living! If that is what you see out there, then by all means follow. But if that isn’t what you see, know your path isn’t “out there” — it is inside of you. You have all the answers for you IN you. Trust.
Don’t buy into the illusion of security. Good grades, good job, benefits, playing it safe.
Look in, then step out.
The riskiest thing we can do is not live the life we were MEANT to live. So THINK about what you really REALLY want. Spark your passions. Create your own masterpiece. Live your purpose.
That is Success.
With SPARK (Spirit, Passion, Adventure, & Rule Breaking Knowledge),