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Celebrations and Digging Deep in Nature and in Life

This is what a Birthday celebration with Ronny looks like.

This is what a Birthday celebration with Ronny looks like.

So it’s my Birthday and I usually like to do something epic.
I don’t know why, but I love stretching myself completely in some sort of challenging endurance excursion on my B-Day. I guess I feel it’s a way I can honor, give gratitude, celebrate and feel being fully alive. Some people eat cake, I like to ride 100 miles or some equivalent (oh, and I eat cake too!).

So, despite where Ronny and I might be in our personal journey with one another (which has been its own epic adventure in and of itself for over the last 13 years), I can always count on Ronny to be my partner in crime on my Birthday.

Ronny is intense. When most people describe him that is the word I hear first and most often – intense. He would have been the perfect Marine Corps Drill Instructor.  Instead we co-own a business together and share a daughter.  Those two things are hard for us to do together.  I do not respond well to “drill instructing.” Where we meet as one is on the trail. It is on the trail where we also meet the deepest part of ourselves. I think that’s why we do it.

Ronny’s happy face.

The B-day celebration starts like this. It’s summer, August 23 (my birthday is actually the 26th, but this is to be a 3 day adventure celebration).  Even though it should be a steamy August day, it is not. When we start our bike ride, it is 68 degrees and raining hard –sideways.  I would expect nothing less. After all, this is an adventure with Ronny.

We start with a climb.  There is no warm-up.

We knew it was going to be a good climb. We were wrong.  It is a phenomenal climb.

Within 20 minutes, Ronny offers his first apology.  “I’m sorry, I didn’t realize it would be this steep.”

Me: Silence

I’m not silent because I’m pissed off that the climb is so steep. I’m not pissed off that I feel light headed and like passing out at only 20 minutes in.

I’m pissed off because Ronny has enough oxygen to speak. And he does so without it seeming to tax him further.

He is used to me not responding.  He knows I am either:

1.  Pissed at him or
2.  Digging deep

Often it is both.

One thing I really appreciate about Ronny is he is never offended by my silence.

More climbing.  The rain has let up a bit and the fog is rolling in like crazy. My quads are burning, my lungs are burning, and I’m seriously light headed. I think about my adrenals (which I’ve had some challenges with). I’ve already had 2 cups of coffee, and shared an Americano (with an extra shot –of course!) with Ronny. And I haven’t slept much the past two nights. A couple of work projects have me excited and in overdrive.

I say, “Sorry adrenals. I will treat you better after my B-day weekend. I swear!”

This climb makes the Gauntlet at the Cove (one of our favorite climbs back home) look like an active recovery day. Or maybe it’s just me. Without a doubt this is the least “trained up” summer I’ve had.  Even my summer right after having my daughter I was much stronger.  So maybe, it’s not that challenging of a climb.  Maybe, it’s me.

Ronny is not in sight. I usually hate that, but today I’m in too much pain to care. I climb. The fog is amazing. Big wet puffs keep rolling in on me. The temp has dropped 10 more degrees.  The climb is keeping me warm enough, but I’m thinking I will be freezing on the decent. The decent is worlds away.  I can’t imagine I’ll ever be descending.

Next curve….there is Ronny.  He is stopped and waiting for me.  My heart gets lighter…we must be at the top. Thank God.  Woo-hoo, what a climb! I’m ready to celebrate.

Ronny offers his second apology of the day.  “Man, I’m sorry. I had no idea it would be like this. You are a rockstar!”

My head is down. I keep pedaling and manage a quick burst of, “Are we there?”

Ronny:  “Um, I hate to say it, but we are just at the halfway point.”

Me:   “Let’s go.”

I can’t stop. It is too rough on the quads to stop and start again.  Plus, I want to do this in one fell swoop. No resting. No stopping. If I stop I will feel like I really haven’t done it.  Which is ridicoulous and not at all true.

It’s much like a road runner who switches to trail running. Road runners feel like a loser when they walk. But trail runners know you must, especially on the long runs. You hike the steeps, it conserves energy, it’s smart.

Same with adventure racing.  Often times, even if you can ride it, you don’t.  You can’t empty your tank when you have 20 hours left to race.

But that’s not what this ride is about. It’s to climb to the top. Period.

At some point in the pain process, I drop into my own world.  I’m no longer silently cursing Ronny. I’m not aware of being light headed. I’m not aware of burning quads and lungs. I’m somewhere else. This is my meditation. I start getting awesome downloads. I’m writing in my head all the awesome things that have now been connected and beautifully downloaded to me. I’m in bliss.

The fog is so thick I can’t see 3 feet in front of me. It’s mystical. It’s peaceful and feels huge. Awe and gratitude wash over me. I get to experience this. I am fully alive.

The bliss is fading. I’m very aware of my legs and my breathing. I might throw-up. My left arm is being shredded by briars.  I see the perfect line away from the briars out to my right, but to get to it I must cross a rut. It’s not very wide or technical, but I have nothing left. I know I can’t cross and keep it together. I cling to the briars and hold my line.

The phrase, “Adventures with Ronny” keeps floating through my mind.  Terry, a previous manager at one of my fitness centers coined that phrase over a decade ago.  After hearing of one of my crazy outings with Ronny, she calmly and knowingly shook her head and said, “Adventures with Ronny.”

I can’t tell you how many times over the last decade I’ve found myself in the wilderness viewing Ronny’s backside ahead of me on some remote kick ass trail as I’ve murmured,  “Yep, Adventures with Ronny.”

Like the time I raced a 36 hour adventure race with him.  My legs were slashed (briars again) and bleeding. To cut distance, we bushwhack and Ronny takes us through a field of stinging nettles. Have you ever experienced stinging nettles? Then we waded through a pond (swamp!) that was dark, murky, stagnant and smelled like dead carcass. I chatted with other racers afterward, and interestingly at that particular race no one else experienced stinging nettles or swamps. Adventures with Ronny.

Or the time we were piecing together a race course for one of our events and were already 2 hours late picking up our daughter and we weren’t sure what state we were in — Virginia or West Virginia? Once we made it to a hard service road, we started looking for license plates on cars to clue us in.  Adventures with Ronny. (Side note: This was like 8 years ago. Before Ronny became the master navigator he is now.  This wouldn’t happen now.  I. DON’T. THINK.)

Or the time we set out to do a 50K (just for fun). At midnight. And I had a broken arm (from another “Adventure with Ronny” outing, but that’s another story). In my defense, I didn’t know it was broken at the time. Adventures with Ronny indeed.

This is what I’ve learned from my adventures:

Whether you (and I mean me + you!) are on the race course, on the bike, on the trails, or going after anything in life these 3 things can make all the difference:

  1.  Don’t try to figure it all out. Put yourself on a need to know basis. Don’t look at the whole enchilada.  Believe me, you don’t want to know everything ahead. If you do, you’ll psyche yourself out or just become completely overwhelmed. Just start and keep forward motion at all times. It’s amazing what you can handle as it comes up.
  2.  Dig deep. Then dig deeper. If you stay the course, if you dig deep, you can do the “impossible” – you are so much stronger than you think. You really are. I promise.1269_10201008721076783_1942494006_n
  3.  Attempt more impossible things. Sometimes you just have to attempt things that are extraordinary, that seem impossible and a bit crazy just because you can!  And… because they inspire your own soul.

So I asked Ronny, after the ride if he thought it was hard.

Ronny:  “Hell yeah, that was the steepest I have ever climbed for 3 miles straight!”

Me:  (Thinking- whew! This man has done some climbs so I’ll take it!) “What was the best part?”

Ronny:  “You. At the halfway point when I asked you if you wanted to rest.  And you grinned and just said, “Good to know,” and pedaled off.

I don’t remember the grin. Or the good to know. I  just remember the pain and the let’s go.

But our company motto is “Your Pain is Our Pleasure,” so evidently it must resonate at a deep level.  For me the PAIN stands for Passionate Adventures In Nature.

I mean, what could be better than that?

Circa 2002

Circa 2002

What a gift. A tremendous gift.

And…what a pleasure.             R+H1 - Copy

PS. If you are an adventurous high performer, high-achiever and have considered working with a life coach, then this might be right up your alley! I mean trail. I mean mountain. 🙂 Check it out: ADVENTURE COACHING INTENSIVE

Who Are You Listening To?

Question: Who or what should you listen to and what should you trust?

Here’s the deal. You desire things that other people don’t. Period.  Sometimes when you ask people what they want, they often say “a million dollars in the bank” or more money. But if you dig deeper it’s actually much much more that they want.

Know that what interests you, what you love, what you dream about, what your idea of the perfect day is, or the perfect mate…are all very different from someone else’s idea. What you think would be the most awesome lifestyle, job or business….again all very unique to you.

Consider your desires to be Soul Sparks!  They are there to light your unique path.

Listen to your heart, trust your gut and THEN use your mind to strategize how to get what you truly desire.

Most people work it the other way, spending a ton of energy and “logic” to talk themselves out of their desires and dreams. So many folks spend so much energy building the case as to why their dreams and desires can’t happen, or why they aren’t supposed to happen.

This is so draining. This is exhausting.  And in all areas of the heart…logic is pretty darn useless.

People pride themselves in being realistic. Don’t.  Being realistic is a road to build other peoples’ dreams, not your own.

I encourage you to honor what you really want. To really practice trusting those desires. That means trusting yourself. Trusting yourself more than well-meaning loved ones, parents, your significant other, society at large, and yes, even me. 🙂 You know more than ANYONE about how to live your life.

So use your smarts (thinking) to create the life you really want, not to talk yourself out of it!  Your heart is telling you the truth. Your brain helps you to get it.

Trust your desires. They are why you are here.  This is how you will be the greatest service to others. So pay attention to your heart. You never know how many people are counting on you to do that very thing.

With love and total belief in you and your dreams!
Live Extraordinary!

The question I get often + how to follow your dreams.

The Question…..
I’ve been asked this question 3 times in the last several weeks and many times
throughout my life. Wait, it’s not really a question, it’s more of a statement with
a chuckle.

 It goes like this:
I’m in a conversation (it can be about various things) and the person stops and
says, “Soooo you JUST kind of decide what you want and go for it!?” (And this is
usually accompanied with a laugh…you know, not like it’s funny, but a “disbelief”
kind of chuckle.)

Me: “Um…well yeah.”  (Thinking: Doesn’t everyone?!?)

Guess what?  They don’t. I’ve been digging a little bit on this one…and research
indicates that on average about only 3% of folks follow their dreams. WTF???
Really?!  Heart attack here! Or at least heartbreak!

Why is that?  And forget dreams. It is all so true about goals and desires that aren’t
what we would consider “lofty dream” stuff.

It seems more folks tend to be in reaction mode waiting for outside circumstances
to direct them to their next course of action.  Why aren’t more people staking a
claim for what they want and going for it?

I believe it’s due to one or more of the following:

1.  They don’t know what they want. (Holy cow!)

2.  They do not believe it is possible. (Sad!)

3.   Believe it is possible but not possible for them (a.k.a. lack of belief in self).

That first one is all about lack of clarity. And it’s not rare. We have it due to
information overload, crazy busy schedules to maintain a lifestyle we’re not even
that jazzed about, and general programming from a very young age about what our
path is supposed to look like.

The second is about perspective. There are basically two groups of people.
The first group are folks who look for every reason why something will be hard,
nearly impossible and unlikely to be successful. While the second group of folks
out there are thinking – “Why not?” – and start building support for the goal or dream.
Which group are you in? Think it about it. It makes ALL the difference.

This third is about courage. It takes the courage to act to overcome self doubt.
We don’t build up confidence & self-esteem and then act. We gain confidence and
belief in self through action.  Action teaches us: I am capable. It is possible.
I can do this.  Have the courage to ACT!  Leap. Trust. You are more capable than
you know and the Universe has your back!

The moral of the story:
If you want more in your life or something different than what you are currently
experiencing then you have to ask yourself WHAT DO YOU WANT?  It sounds simple,
right?  But the truth is it is not being asked nearly enough.

It is OK to ask. It is OK to want it. It is OK not to have anyone’s permission. It is sooooo
OK if it is not the norm.  It is OK if it is crazy or feels crazy (even better if it is!).

Train Your Mind
Right now, think about something you really want. Next, write down 3 ideas of how
it would work, how you could accomplish it.  Brainstorm. Do you need a loan?  A friend?
A workout partner?  A book? A Google search? A babysitter?  A certification?

Take a step toward it. It can be small. The first step is the hardest. Just do it.
Don’t over think it. Don’t sit with it for too long. Just do it. Imperfect action is
where it’s at!  Consistent and imperfect action Baby!

Know this:  There isn’t too much magic, glamor, or mystique in following your dreams.
It’s pretty basic. 1) Know what you want  2) Sketch out a rough plan (ways to start)
3) Use courage to take your first step, then another….

So…go forth and dream + do!

Spark your most epic summer, your most extraordinary life!  I believe in you!

I believe this word is one of the ickiest in the human experience!

It’s like monsoon season here. RAIN, RAIN, RAIN, and more RAIN.

I’d be lying if I didn’t say it’s affecting my mood a bit. Some days it feels
downright depressing and I am fighting the urge to not jump in my vehicle and
drive south until I see sun. Drive somewhere until I see sun!

And I’ve been wondering if I made a mistake this past April in selling my
“get-a-way” house in sunny St. Pete. Dang it! It sure would be nice about now.

You know what my least favorite word, feeling, experience is?  REGRET

I’m OK with fear. I’m OK with pain. But regret…Yikes!  No thank you!

Fear and pain we can at least feel it had something to do with someone or something
outside ourselves. But regret? Regret is on us, right?  It implies we had the power to
do something or not to do something. To decide. To choose. And if we choose
incorrectly…we could be left with the oh-so icky REGRET.

I think that is what fear of failure is all about. It’s not failing itself. It’s not
embarrassment. It’s the knowing, the facing up to that you made a decision
that didn’t work out. Oh, if only….. REGRET.

But you know what?  It really comes down to this. OK, I’m going to get heavy
on you for a minute (blame the rain!). I’d rather choose a million things and screw
them up or wish I’d done something differently than to reach the end of my life and
ask, “What if? What if I’d only…”.

Just for a moment, imagine your life is coming to an end. This is it.  Glance back
over your life so far. What are three things you wished you would have done,
tried, said, experienced, allowed, ____________________ (you fill in the blank).

What 3 things would you regret if you don’t do them?

Is there anything you can do now?  Is it too late? 

1.  I’d be pretty bummed if I didn’t complete and publish the 2 books that are in
my heart and half scattered over my desk and computer. I’m on a mission to bust
the status quo, impact the world, and most importantly leave some wise stuff
for my daughter.

2.  I’d wish that I would’ve got my running back up and experienced some
pretty cool 50ks and Ultra runs (that’s 32 miles and up friend!).  Run, run, run
and feel, feel, feel.

3.  And I’d surely ask, “Why didn’t I book the freaking biking trip in Italy?!”

Oh, and let’s add a 4th (by the way, don’t stop at 3! if you got more, write ’em! Do ’em!).

4.  I would most certainly of wished I’d been more patient, present, loving, and
more wonderful with my daughter. (I’m getting on that one today!)

OK, now your turn.

Here’s to both of us living and loving full out!  No regrets.

Feel free to share a thought or comment below!  Or let me know if you want to take
a road trip with me!  🙂

Spark & Sunshine!

Man, This One Question Stumps Me Every Summer!

And it is a perfectly normal summertime question!

But it drives me nuts.  I hate when someone asks me a question
and my response is, “um…well…yeah…I guess…I mean…
I’m sure I will….ummm…”

Really? Come on Hollie, get it together.

Make up the answer. Script it.  Craft an elevator speech for it.
Or for the love of everything holy, for this question just say
“YES!” and let it be over with.

This is the question that tortures me:
So are you going on a vacation this summer?
So freaking simple, right?  But it confuses me. Usually
I’m good at thinking fast but I always stumble over this one.


1. I’ve been an entrepreneur working from home for the last
14 years. I’m my own boss. So I just say, “Hey Hollie, you
want next week off? Cool, you got it.”

2. I’m spontaneous as hell. So I don’t plan ahead. I always
take “vacations,” trips, days off, or go on an adventure with
little notice. It’s based on when the mood strikes. So unless
it’s 1-5 days out, I really can’t say.

3. Every day feels like a vacation (OK well, not EVERY day).
But on a whole the way my life and days are set up there is no
difference between a day or evening, a mid-day or a weekend,
or a vacation to real life.

All that leaves me with the oh-so inspiring “um, yeah,
I’m sure I will….” answer.

Like I said, I should just respond with “YES! Beach
trip sometime in July!”

But no, instead my soul starts pondering why we
live like we do.  Why do we save our best days to
just a week or two a year?

Why do we have lives we need to vacate?

Hey, I do get why vacations are important and it’s cool
to travel with friends and family. But what I’m really
talking about are the masses who live for vacation days
whether it is time off on the weekends or the one to
two weeks or so off a year.

Not everyone can be their own boss (or would want to
be for that matter!). However, I do believe a far too great
a number of folks are miserable in their work, and are
living for the weekends and time off. And that my friend
needs to change.

So…are you living for time off, or loving living
every day of your life?

3 Things to Decide, Consider, and Get into Inspired Action with:

1. Do you love your work?  If not consider finding new work
(even if it pays less) or starting your own business. It’s pretty
impossible to love life while dreading 40 hours of it each week.
Start exploring options. Start exploring what your world would
look like if you loved your work?

2. Are you incorporating something you love into every day?
Do you wake up feeling excited?  A group run, a sweet mountain
bike, a workout, a great meal, a juicy conversation, a lunchtime
adventure, a fantastic movie, a massage. Incorporate more fun, rest,
and adventure into each and every day.

3. Decide NOT to accept that this is just how it has to be (It doesn’t!).
You may not have all the answers now, but do start lowering your
tolerance to what you will allow yourself to “live with”…

 and…day to day inspired living beats any vacation any time!

I say do both, but definitely “book” the inspired living
trip…it’ll last a lifetime!

Here’s to spark, sunscreen, and living like you mean it!


How to Recognize “Duds” in Your Life!

Over the weekend we had a pretty lengthy firework
show from our neighbors. It included
some pretty
cool explosions of sparkle, and it also included quite
a few duds.

I just like that word:  Dud

I like this definition too: something which is useless, does not work etc.

And, I started thinking…do I have any “duds” in my life?  Do you?

You know…things, activities and even people that are, if we are really honest,
just kind of useless, do not really work for us, but yet we keep them around?

They don’t really seem to hurt anything, right?  It’s just more that they don’t
really add any sizzle, sparkle, energy or great value to our life either. Hmmm…

But are duds actually harmless? I think we treat them just like a firework show.
We have high hopes. We hold anticipation that the thing or person will all of a
show its greatness. We’ll be dazzled.

But nope, it’s still a dud.

I kind of think duds are dangerous. They take up room and energy. They take
the spot and space of something that would serve us much better, and actually
delight us!

Duds can be disguised as shiny great objects and can sometimes be sneaky to sniff out,
but if you are honest you will see they can reveal themselves as:

1. parties, invitations that are just not you

2. clothes that don’t work for you

3. just stuff…extra clutter

4. the fancy gizmo you bought that you keep because it cost a lot of money,
but in reality it really just makes your brain hurt

5. the “good” job that is paying the bills but draining your soul

6. the partner that is down more than up, takes more energy than they bring

7. negative self talk, negative people

All DUDS!!!

How much better would your firework show of life
be if you removed these “duds” from the line-up?

How would your life look if you said “no” more often, did only the things that
made your heart soar, allowed only positive people in your inner circle, ended
relationships that drained, donated all the “stuff” to a charity…. would you feel
lighter, happier? Would you have more energy, more joy?

Yeah, me too. It might be time for another round of soul searching + dud-
busting.  What do you think?

Wishing you a bright, sparkly, heart soaring, flying high kind of day life!

Love + Spark!


Want to change your life? Do you do this one thing?

NVST N U – Solve this license plate and you’ll solve the pathway to exponential growth + success in every area of life. 

So this was my tag from 1999 – present. I’m getting ready to retire it and move on to a new tag that represents what I’m digging now in life.  Hint: this next one will be easy to read, but epic to incorporate into life!

So…for over a decade this tag and tagline has been my philosophy and core operating principle. It changed my life.

NVST N U.  It was always fun to see who could get it, who really struggled, and who never could figure it out.  Most interesting were the ones who figured out the words but not the meaning.

 Invest in YOU.  Did you get it?  Do you do it?

There is no greater investment or return on investment on this planet than Investing in YOU – in your mindset, in your health, in your personal development, in your business, and in gaining certain experiences and knowledge. 

In my early twenties, I was fortunate to understand the power and the necessity of investing in myself. And it’s something I easily and continually do over and over again. It is the key to my success. Well that, and I have a very low tolerance for a boring ass life.  

So when you start investing in yourself, it means you begin to evaluate  purchases, experiences, wellness, and ways to learn something or grow something in a totally different way. 

ROI (Return On Investment)
You don’t base your choices and decisions on how much money or time is involved. You begin to train yourself in seeing and understanding the true value of what you are gaining and the transformation or power this investment will have on your life right now as well as how it will add, impact, or take away from your life in the next 10-20 years.

I have many times learned and transformed my mind, my health, my business  and my life from nuggets I gained in a $15 book. More transformation has taken place in $100 worth of books than what I received from my $80,000 college education. 

Now that won’t be true for everyone, but the point is there are many ways to invest and what you are looking for is the wisdom, the nugget, the experience, “the piece”  that gives you what you personally and individually need next to succeed, to expand or to move into a higher quality of living.

I find it pretty darn interesting that many people I know won’t invest in a book that they feel will help them until it comes out in paperback or until they can check it out at the library or borrow from a friend.

I think that’s freaking crazy. I mean seriously?  Did you eat out this week?  Did you have a few drinks? Do you have cable TV?    Aren’t you worth more than that? Aren’t your dreams worth more?  You are and they are. Trust me on that!

Where is your life right now? 
Your “life account” is a reflection of where you have invested and how well you have invested over the last 5, 10, 20+ years. Don’t like it?  Then start today with determining what is important and investing in those things.   Some will be immediate returns and some will grow over time.

 You may need to:

·        Buy a book

·        Get more sleep

·        Hire a personal trainer

·        Hire a life coach or biz consultant

·        Take a class

·        Take a trip

·        Leave a relationship

·        Commit to personal development

·        Develop a spiritual practice

·        Give yourself permission to live the life you really want

Where do you need to invest to get the greatest ROI in living an extraordinary life? You get to decide.

**Feel free to comment below about how you invest in yourself and be sure to share with any friends who might enjoy a little “investment” advice.**

Here’s to rock solid returns!

Hollie “NVST N U” Flynn

Trusting Your Passions, Even When Others Don’t

  (5 Strategies + Some Love to Support You)

  This post was inspired by one of my readers.
And know this, I believe in YOU 100% percent.

To live an EPIC life, a life that is made up of what you love, what excites you, what makes you want to jump out of bed, and what brings great depth and meaning to your days requires great passion. Passion is the fuel for our dreams.

What we are passionate about holds the keys to our most EPIC lives.  Lives that are extraordinary, passion-filled, inspiring (to ourselves + others), and they feel “completely you” (in alignment with your greatest values!).

You MUST trust your passions. You must keep taking steps, even if small, to create the life you deeply desire.  It won’t go away. This feeling you have. Your dreams. This restlessness. This desire for more

Maybe it’s MORE:
Financial freedom, Creativity, Soul experiences, Impact in the world, Meaning, Freedom, Aliveness, Play.

Whatever it is you’re thinking, what you’re wanting – It is right for you! The question isn’t about whether it is or isn’t, or whether you should or shouldn’t, it’s about “how do I” and especially how do you when:

1. You’re broke.
2. Tired and overwhelmed.
3. Feel too much responsibility to maintain your current life.
4. Do not have support of significant other or family.
5. Are confused about exactly what you should be doing.

But you know there is MORE. You are meant for more. You’re searching. But you’re also doubting. And your current environment supports the doubting.

How do you handle it? How can you keep leaning into your dreams when you feel you do not have support from any corner?

Here are 5 Strategies + Love to Support You:

  1. Read 30 minutes to 1 hour a Day of Positive Content!
    This may sound crazy or not truly significant, but I promise if you do this daily for even a few months, your life will never be the same. Ideally, 30 minutes in the AM when you wake, and 30 minutes before you go to sleep at night. If you can’t do 30, do 15. Do whatever you can, but commit to this practice EVERY AM and PM.Let your books become your best friends and greatest sources of inspiration.I began doing this in my early twenties and can tell you it was the single most powerful factor in propelling me toward a life of success, financial abundance, and freedom. These books will lift your spirit, increase your belief in your dreams, and your belief in YOU!  They will reveal the wisdom of the ages and Universal truths to success.  They will inspire and empower you to go after your dreams.

  2. Your Top 5
    Research indicates we are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with in terms of what’s in our bank accounts and in terms of our attitudes and mindsets.Become a vigilant gatekeeper to those you choose to hang out with or allow into your environment. It matters. Surround yourself with like minded folks who believe in you and who are also up to exciting things in life. You might have outgrown your friends/family and haven’t yet connected with your “new family”…don’t worry this is temporary. It can feel lonely and like “what’s wrong with me,” but trust you are stretching and growing into the person you need to become to create what you want to create. Stop trying to get others to “get you” or to be on board with your dreams. This can be so draining, frustrating, and depressing. Save your energy. Put it toward your dreams. Your responsibility is to live your passions, your best life…this is the BEST way to help those you care about. This is the best way to ensure long term success and happiness for yourself and your family. 

    This #2 is probably the hardest one. I get it. Just keep reading what is here and let it support you and know you are not alone.

  3. Find Mentors and/or Online Groups.
    It’s so easy with today’s online world to connect to the best of the best. Search out mentors or groups online. Let yourself see and experience those who are thriving, living their passions, and creating their own realities. These are the folks you want to follow and “surround” yourself with.  Let these mentors and groups be your support team. It is powerful.

  4. Stay Connected Here
    I believe in you. My mission is to help illuminate + guide others in sparking, creating, and living their most awesome lives. You ended up here because you believe your most awesome life is possible. Even if sometimes you feel a bit lost or overwhelmed.  My role is to shine the light so you can see your unique path. I’m honored to support you. Stay connected!

  5. Pick One Passion
    What topic or activity are you most drawn to right now? Don’t try to figure out your entire life today. It’s tempting, I know!  Simply think about what you truly enjoy. What is one activity that you absolutely love or a topic you find so intriguing you just can’t stop reading or studying it?  These are the things that when you are engaged in you feel “right,” you forget to eat, you feel a natural flow, and the rest of the world seems to drop away. It can be something simple, but you feel pure joy in it.Don’t try to analyze your passions or try to figure out how you can make money from them (yet). Too much pressure in that. Today pick one passion for the love and joy of it and do it! Ride your bike, rebuild your bike, cook an awesome meal, tinker, sketch out a design, read, write a little, build something, take apart something, order a book on the topic.Identify one passion, then take one action toward engaging in it today. Notice how it feels. Does this first little action spark inspiration or naturally lead you to take another step? Get into action daily with this passion or interest. Dots will begin to connect. Doors and opportunities will begin to open. You will meet certain people at certain times. You will notice things online that escaped you before.

 Magic begins to happen when you take action. 
(Small, consistent, imperfect action!)

 To wrap this baby up…I know it was a long one.

Listen to your passions. They are guideposts to your most EPIC life. Trust them.  They are on target. They are your truth.  Let your passions and deep knowing that there is “more” for you, give you the fuel you need to keep moving forward despite anything else going on in your life.  Be proactive in getting support where you need it most.

I admire your courage. I admire your struggles. I admire your dreams.

And I believe in you!

“Passion is the emotional fuel that drives your vision. It’s what you hold on to when your ideas are challenged and people turn you down, when you are rejected by ‘experts’ and the people closest to you. It’s the fuel that keeps you going when there is no outside validation for your dream.”

                                                                             ~Bill Strickland, Social Innovator
                                                                       (from The Innovation Secrets of Steve Jobs, by Carmine Gallo)

With Passion and Loads of Love + Support!


The Tipping Point: When Too Many Greats Become Not So Good.

Do you feel overwhelmed? Confused? Muddled? Even though a lot in your life is good. Some of it really good.

I get it.

You know, I’ve been on a “simplicity journey” over the last year or so. I sold 3 fitness centers, closed 1 vacation rental business and sold a 2nd home in sunny St. Pete.

I also went on a crazy purge of “stuff”… I took Jeep-fuls to Goodwill, sold things on Craigslist, closed accounts, cut off phone lines and cable, and unsubscribed to pretty much everything. I even had a burning ceremony in my backyard getting rid of financial docs, cards, photos, and other personal mementos. Anything physical, mental, or emotional that felt heavy or like a distraction went.

It felt so freaking good. So much that a few times I feared I might not know where to stop with the simplicity pursuit. It turns out I did know. I actually felt when the Tipping stopped.

So…distractions from what you ask? Good question.

Distractions from expressing my true purpose + living it full out. I learned great things, can keep us from the EXTRAORDINARY things we are meant to do. I learned we can’t do it all. And better yet, there is no reason to.

Because in reality great + great + great + great + great = good (at best!).
Most of the time it = overwhelmed, stressed, confused, flat, unsure, divided, distracted, less joy.
Somewhere along the way too many GREATS tip into TOO MUCH.

So…a question for you…

Would you recognize your Tipping Point?

When was the last time you really stopped, reflected, and assessed your goals, your “forward” direction, your life? Kind of checked in on your WHYs and your WHAT’S IT ALL FORs? Does everything feel good and right? Or does it no longer make sense or feel too much?

Sometimes a Tipping Point can sneak up on us or we simply evolve and it’s time to recognize what was great no longer is and it’s time to let go. And that it’s OK to let go.

Sometimes it takes letting go of a lot of great things, ideas, projects, businesses, and even people to experience less, but more extraordinary ones.

Sometimes you have to do less + have less to BE more.

To be more rejuvenated.
To be more rested.

To be more focused.
To be more powerful.

To be more expansive.
To be more creative.

To be more loving.
To be more joyous.

To be more passionate.
To be more purposeful.

To be more YOU.

Here’s to Tipping in the direction of your happiest, healthiest, and most extraordinary life!

You deserve it!


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I Resolve to Create Crazy Goodness, to Screw Logic, and to Be Amazed

Honestly, “resolution talk” bores me.  So how about we just dig into some powerful stuff that creates crazy goodness in your life.

What I love is you can start a “new year” any day you want, any minute you want. Anytime you find yourself wanting to kick things up a bit and bring some great things your way, you can follow this process.

Here is some Crazy Goodness Homework: 

Exercise 1    Your Year in Review

  1. Take 20-30 minutes.  Think about the past year…work, business, family, relationships, health, fitness, finance, travel, adventure, learning…cover any and all areas that are significant in your life.
  2. If you had a list of goals, resolutions, or journal entry from last year bring it out.  Maybe you just have mental notes and remember what you wanted for the year.  Evaluate.  Where were you then? Where are you now? What went well?  What didn’t?
  3. Now write down everything you can think of that you accomplished, did well, experienced, and  learned from. We tend to forget how much we REALLY did do.  Acknowledge it. Honor it. Celebrate it. Cause you’re pretty awesome!
  4. Now write down what you absolutely want less of and what you absolutely want more of.
  5. Give thanks.  Seriously.  Say a prayer, a blessing, or just speak some words of gratitude.  There is extraordinary power in pausing, breathing, acknowledging, and giving gratitude. This is closure for what was and a welcoming in of the crazy goodness to come.

Exercise 2   Pick a Word or Theme

  1.  What resonates with you most strongly?  How are you feeling right now?  What do you most desire to feel?  Does a word or phrase pop to mind?  And know this, it may not even make sense to you right now.  It doesn’t have to.  But it does typically feel strong, right, and good.
  2. For some of you it might be a single word, for others it might be a phrase.  For me it’s usually a couple of words that become like a mantra.  In 2012, mine was “Simplify Life, Magnify Living”. And holy cow it was powerful.  And it grew and deepened as the year unfolded in ways I could never have planned or scripted.

Chances are if you think about the upcoming year in terms of your word or your theme, instead of a bullet point list of things you think you should be doing, it actually keeps you moving forward with endless possibilities, a greater sense of fulfillment, and honestly, it’s just a lot more “right on” to guiding you to your best self, your best life.

For example, those folks who might normally write “go to the gym everyday” as a resolution might dig deeper and choose a word or theme like: Confidence, Energy, or Radiant Vitality.

 3. Write down your word or theme.  Writing it down is powerful.  It’s like calling in a million awesome ways this could play out.

Exercise 3   The List

  1. The list is there to start you on the journey with some action steps.  Write specific things that you know right now would move you in the direction of or support your word or theme. Shoot for 10-20 things.
  2. Do not shoot for perfection.   The goal is to continually move toward the direction of your theme, your desired goal and feeling.
  3. Do write things that seem out of reach.  These are the things you really want, but don’t see any way they could actually happen.  Screw logic and rational thought.  And prepare to be amazed.

One thing I had on my 2012 list was to sell my vacation home in St. Pete, FL.  My year was pretty busy with other “Simplifying Life, Magnifying Living” tasks, so this one kind of fell under the radar screen.  I pulled my list out on December  1, and was like, “hmmm, yeah not likely to get that one done”.  My logical side was kicking in, and saying things like, “By the time you find a realtor and list it, you’ll only have a two week window to find a buyer before the house is completely booked with guests until April”.  I decided to screw logic and realistic planning and put into action the things I could and leave the details to the Universe.   I listed it and got an offer in one week.   This stuff actually happens a lot to me.  Logic and being “realistic” has its place to keep us from dying, but serves us very little after that point.  Remember that.  It’s an important component of a “crazy good” life.

Exercise 4    What Now?

  1. Post this baby (your word or theme) where you will see it every day.  You want to see it, read it, feel it, and let it run through your mind often.
  2. You’ll want to be aware of your list and start doing some of the things.  Pick a couple at a time and get into some action.  Some things you’ll do easily.  Others will drop away.  And others will simply be doors to the real magic.
  3. The coolest thing is whenever you are faced with a question, an opportunity, or a decision to make, you can simply ask, “does this support my word or theme or take me further from it”?

 Think of your word or theme as your guidepost for this year.  It’s what your soul most desires at this time.  It is there to ground you, guide you, and to stir up some crazy goodness in the Universe.

Do you already know your word or theme?  Feel free to share.  We can all give it some collective love and mojo.  If you’ve never done this before, I would love for some folks to take this on as an experiment and report back at year’s end.

 With love & crazy goodness!