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Simplify Life, Magnify Living

Well…by far the #1 Question I received in 2012, after selling my three fitness centers was: What are you going to do now?

The first answer that always popped into my head (but was rarely shared) was “recovering my sanity.” Yep, that’s what I was up to… sanity recovery.  I was President and CEO.  I usually framed my response in a lighter and more inspiring way like the title of this writing, Simplify Life, Magnify Living.  Sounds beautiful right?  Don’t get me wrong, I love Simplify Life, Magnify Living. It was my 2012 mantra. It was beautiful, it was powerful, and the results so worth it. It was also exhausting and honestly, a few times, it was “knocked to my knees” painful.

 Simplify Life, Magnify Living could have just as easily been named: The Smackdown of 2012.  

 

Regardless of what I called it, what was driving it all behind the scenes was a call, a force, a cry (a surrender), and a deep soul level desire to dismantle everything I had built and start over. I needed to recover my sanity, my peace, my happiness, and a different kind of freedom. Soul freedom.

It all started like this:
I woke up one day and was done. I mean SO done.  Done with the life I had created. Uh-oh. This wasn’t the first time I’d experienced this feeling, this knowing.  It doesn’t feel like a decision, it feels more like being compelled forward or drawn into something bigger than myself.

I knew I was going to make some radical changes. It was already in motion. The words and desires that floated through every cell in my body were: Clean sweep.  Less is More. Simplify Life, Magnify living. 

It was no longer about the freedom to do EVERYTHING and ANYTHING. It was about the freedom and space to do ONLY a few things (very few things) that were deeply important.  My definition of freedom had profoundly shifted under my feet.  Freedom was now about simplicity, meaning, space, creativity, and an aliveness and engagement at the soul level. It was about much less. It was about having less. Doing less.

Crap. I had a lot of work to do before I could do less. The journey ahead felt overwhelming, heavy, and long.

I had built way too much. I had too much. I did too much.  Six businesses, two homes, and far too many things to manage, hire out, delegate, clean, keep up with, dust, fix, insure, and remember. Too much.

And there was more: relationships that drained, resentment and non-acceptance in one area, information overload, and way too many distractions. Too much.

I made a commitment to let go of EVERYTHING that no longer served me or my life to its highest potential.

So it began….The Smackdown of 2012.
It required getting really honest and really clear on what truly mattered to me, what was meaningful, what filled me with joy, what made my soul come alive. There were very few things that made the cuts. I decided to keep:  1) My daughter (her Grandma is so relieved!); 2) My home is Salem which had been my sanctuary and my absolute favorite place on the planet for 12 years; 3) My company Wellness Spark, Inc. which was the only business that allowed me to create, share, and inspire with the greatest alignment and integrity; and 4) my favorite mountain bike.  5) My cats, Yin and Yang. Everything else was up for grabs.

My goal was to clear as much physical, mental, and energetic space as I could before the close of 2012.

First, I decided to sell my 3 fitness centers. It was 6 months of hell (and that’s the positive spin) to close the deal. It wasn’t easy or lucrative, but it was done. I also let go of any remaining dreams I had with a 4th business venture and allowed acceptance and peace that divesting out of it was 100% right for me.  I put my vacation home on the market which was also a 5th business (happy to report it is currently under contract!).  I sold or gave away computers, bikes, clothes, books, and “extra” everything. I purged photos, letters, and jewelry from past loves. I drew a line in the sand with a relationship that drained and let go of others that I had outgrown. I cut what I allowed into my inbox by 95%. I cleaned computer files. Organized years of writings. Declined invitations. Emailed less. Reduced social media to 20 minutes a week. Closed every account not absolutely essential. I was passionate in my pursuit to simplify life to magnify living.

Along the way, I experienced challenges, setbacks, sleepless nights, unknowns, and a few meltdowns.  One thing is for sure…. this simplicity business is no joke.  And it’s probably safe to say I delved into a little more insanity before being free of it.

It is insane, right?  What we think we can get done in a day, a week, a year.  The amount we allow into our lives (even the good stuff). How we define success. Where we spend our time. The amount of information we allow into our minds.  This is your life, my life…our time is precious…our energy is precious…our lives and loved ones are precious. Every breath, every minute, every sweet moment…we don’t get back.  What are we exchanging our lives for?  Is it worth it? Or is it insane?

Right now, close your eyes and let the words “soul freedom” gently wash over you. What would allow you to feel more free?  What does your soul really desire? How do you really want to spend your time and your energy?  Don’t edit yourself.  Honestly, what do you desire?

When you hear the words, “Simplify Life, Magnify Living”, what do they mean to you?  What areas, things, relationships could you let go of to create more space, more time, more money?  What experiences and feeling do you want more of?

Is it Smackdown time?  Is it time to simplify so you can truly live?

Kate Northrup says, “The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so the necessary may speak.”

My 2012 mantra Simplify Life, Magnify Living was necessary to unload the unnecessary. I heard the call. I answered.

As this year comes to a close, I feel grace and gratitude. I feel free.  And I’m already hearing clearly what my soul is calling in for 2013. I am listening. I am answering. I am ready.

Do you hear your call?  Are you listening? Will you answer?  I hope you will.
Please know it is so worth it. You are so worth it.

A toast to you:  Here’s to simplicity, soul freedom, and magnificent living!  And a crazy amount of love! From my soul to yours…. Happy New Year Dear Friends!

xo!
Hollie

Morning Confessions: My HOT New Year’s Date and What I Did That I’ve NEVER Done Before! Don’t Judge! For Women Only!

The Secret

OK my lady friends, I’m going to let you in on a secret that if you dare to try it on, you will be more confident, happier, sexier, and more in love than e-v-e-r!   Whether you are single and want to attract more men into your life or you are in a relationship and simply want more zing, you must master this tantalizing tidbit!

Oh, and this has nothing to do with sexy lingerie, a stripper pole, or a skill set in bed!  (OK good, the guys just clicked away!)  😉

My dear sister friend, if you want a HOT date with a man, including your own husband or significant other you must first BE a hot date!

Yep, that’s right!  So exactly how do you know if you are hot date material?  I’m going to give you a little test in a minute so you may get an idea of where you rate, but first let me explain a little about last night and why it was amazing!

The Decision

New Year’s Eve is a big night, right? You want to do something big, or at least special, and I think we all want to spend it with that special someone and have that magical, full of hope and promise New Year’s Eve kiss at the stroke of midnight.  After all, it seems that is what everyone else in the world is up to.

The evening started off perfect. My daughter was staying the night with my folks, and I had several juicy invites and options to consider…the excitement was definitely in the air. But something was off…CRAP…yep here it comes. I could hear and feel my truth bubbling up.

A thought occurred to me. I had never EVER spent a New Year’s Eve alone.  Nope, not one. Now, I do spend a lot of evenings alone and I love those nights, but not a New Year’s Eve!  As a child I was always with my parents, then with friends, at a party, with a significant other, or with my daughter.  And yes, I have even opted on some New Year’s to spend it with someone or in a way that wasn’t all that great just to have someone or something to do on that special of special nights!

I realized that what I was desiring more than anything was to be my own smashing, hot date!  I felt I wanted to give space to honor 2011, to honor myself in a deep, fulfilling way, and to be fully present in welcoming in 2012.  That was it. My decision was to be home alone on New Year’s Eve. I did have a bit of a wobble….I was a teensy bit afraid that as the evening unfolded I might regret my decision and my own private New Year party might turn into a pity party!  Yikes, I didn’t like that possibility. But what kept coming up stronger and stronger was that partying with myself was the right thing to do and the absolute best way for me to experience what I truly wanted out of the evening…a rich, fulfilling night and an aliveness and excitement at the core level.

So I had no other choice, the party was on. I agreed to be my own hot date!

Are You A Hot Date?

I want you to contemplate the following questions.  Your answers will reveal how comfortable you are with yourself, how much lovin’ is really going on, and if you need to spice things up a bit!

When was the last time you spent an evening alone?  A Friday or Saturday night completely alone and had a fabulous time?  Do you always have the radio on? The TV on?  Do you check emails, texts, Facebook often to avoid being, “Oh my God! Alone!”  Do feel sad and lonely if you don’t have plans “out there” with someone special, either a girlfriend or with a guy?  Do you feel lost, fearful, anxious at the thought of spending hours by yourself, especially in the evenings?

Here’s the deal. When you love yourself you can have a freaking great time with yourself.  And when you feel that and practice it you radiate confidence (a.k.a. hotness!), beauty, and a playful spirit. Now, that my friend is mighty attractive. You will only be without a date or relationship if that is what you choose, it won’t be ’cause there aren’t’ any takers!  But the best part is how this fills you up and spills over to every area of your life.  It’s the secret to everything. You will no longer chase circumstances, money, things, or people on the outside to fill up what is missing on the inside. Only you can do that. Anything else is temporary and you will always operate with an under belly of fear to hang on tightly or to chase something which isn’t real in the first place. Holy Moly, when you love yourself and find YOU are fabulous company all on your own…the energy, time, and heartache saved is nothing short of life-changing.

So what if you’re not there yet?  You can begin this journey to finding your true love (you!) by simply being aware. Begin to give yourself the opportunity to experience space and time alone to see what comes up for you. You may notice you are completely relaxed, joyous, and easily feel your fabulous self.  It’s OK, if you don’t feel all those good things. Just acknowledge what you are feeling without judgment. Notice what is coming up and make it a point to start practicing more time alone. You can start with short amounts of time and work to extend this as you go. Start buying gifts for yourself instead of waiting for someone else to buy them. Allow more self care because you deserve it. Take care of your appearance. It drives me nuts when I hear a woman say that she’s not putting on make up, dressing well, or fixing her hair because no one is going to see her.  YOU are someone. You are going to see you and you are the one that matters. Come on, don’t you feel more radiant, confident, and alive when you look in the mirror and see a sexy hot mamma looking back at ya?!  Start tapping into your passions and allow yourself more creativity and pleasure in your time alone. In my opinion there is nothing more attractive and hot than a woman (or a man!) who is living her passions with passion. Before long you will begin to notice a feeling of centeredness at your core, you will notice people find you more interesting….heck, you find you more interesting.

Face it, at this point, you’re unbelievably lovable and hot!

Party On!

Now, I did work the party last night and mingle with others. I sent out some love and well wishes via email and text. I received love and well wishes via Facebook. I hung out with Jenny McCarthy, Ryan Seacrest, and Dick Clark for a bit. But I always couldn’t wait to back to my own hot self!  We had champagne, ate hot buttery popcorn, did some writing and visioning, and at the stroke of midnight we blew a kiss and a blessing out into the world and felt it’s sweet return.  It couldn’t have been more perfect.

Here’s to True Love and a Hot 2012!

Hollie

Birthday Note: My Love Affair with the Number 4 and how it gets me in TROUBLE

My love affair with the number 4 and how it gets me in TROUBLE. (Not much different from my real love affairs, but that’s another note.)

I LOVE the number 4.  Oooohhhh, and 8.  And to see 4 and 8 next to each other. Wowzer!  Does something to me. Crazy, I know.

Like my personal email is hflynn448.  Makes me feel all warm and fuzzy!

My Birthday is 8-26-71.  Add the numbers and you have 8-8-8 (what does that mean astrologers?)

Most of the time when I look at my watch it happens to be 4:48.  Makes me oh-so-happy.

Today is my 40th Birthday!  As you can imagine, entering the decade of the “4” has me over the top excited! This will be a powerful decade for sure.

Oh, and my gal pals….you know how I drool over each new arrival of the Athleta catalog?  Yep, this time I did more than drool. I mean, it is my Birthday after all.  I had to place an order and I had to stick with the “4” theme.  Well, even with the great sales, $40 just wouldn’t do it. So, I had to bump it to the next “4 category”…and purchase $464 of awesome girly clothes and accessories. A girl’s gotta do what a girl’s gotta do, right?  My Grandma would be proud.

Right now, I’m planning my epic outdoor challenge for the day. Yep, it must come in at 40 miles. Road biking 40 miles isn’t epic enough unless the elevation is crazy. I wish I could run a 40 mile ultra today, but my training isn’t there. So back to the bike. I could mountain bike 40 miles…with the right terrain and elevation this would be mighty challenging. Or I could run 20 miles and bike 20 miles. It must be so challenging I’ll think about losing my lunch at least 4 times!  I wish I could let the 4 theme go on this one…and just ride or run whatever…but I am obsessed with nailing a powerful “4” figure and challenge in some way. A girl’s gotta do what a girl’s gotta do.

My favorite 4 things….biking, running, food, and LIVING my passions….sometimes they are easy, sometimes they are just plain yummy, sometimes they inspire others, sometimes they don’t, sometimes they are really hard, but they are always mine.

So, here’s to celebrating our passions & our quirks!  And here’s to celebrating the act of celebrating!

And mostly, here’s to YOU. This is what I celebrate the most. Friends, family, love & laughter (4 things! Imagine that!)…those are what Birthdays & celebrations are all about. What life is all about.

Thank you, thank you, thank you, and thank you for being in my life!

With love, gratitude, birthday cake, and blessings!

Hollie