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Is it YOUR time to love your life? All of it?

Life is short. So I was at an appointment Monday with my dermatologist. She asked me how my day was. I thought about it and said, “Actually, really fast.”

She said, “OH THAT’S GREAT! Don’t you love when they fly by? You know how sometimes you look at the clock, and are like…oh my gosh, ONLY 2:30?!”

Me: (In my head.) Huh?!

I could tell she was authentically very happy for me and my fast day.

I wanted to go, “Wait! Wait! Not a good thing! That’s my precious life minutes!”  And then list the 67 reasons why I enjoy my days and want them to go slow. But that can be exhausting…for both parties!

But, I couldn’t shake the comment. Partly, because I was surprised she felt that way. I viewed her as someone who loved her work and enjoyed being there. I was also there at exactly 2:30 pm and suddenly wondered if she was happy to be treating me or thinking, “God, it’s ONLY 2:30. Can’t wait to get this girl out of here!” Which I’m sure she WOULD HAVE thought had I started on my list of 67. 🙂

I started thinking that it probably wasn’t an odd comment, but likely a feeling many people have about their lives and especially their work.

So I took a moment to get out of my self-created bubble, and go back in time. 17 years to be exact. I do remember exactly how it felt. I felt it every single day, every single hour from my first job at 16 years old until my last job (for someone else) at 26.  It’s been 17 years since I disliked my work and counted hours until I could go home. It’s been 17 years since I counted down the days to weekends and to vacations.

It’s easy for people to look at me now and say, “Oh, you’re lucky.”  But, I have to be straight with you. It wasn’t luck. It was a choice. I went for it. I took a big fat scary leap to change my life. I did it for one reason and one reason only:

A life where I watched the clock was unacceptable to me. Period. I refused to live that way.

Despite great odds and very little money, I creatively found a way to open my own business. I was looking for a solution. I was willing to create the solution. To go for it, even though it seemed crazy. Even though I didn’t even know HOW to fully create my solution or run a business.

Being committed to a solution just means determined to figure it out as you go. Fiercely determined. When it’s hard. When you’re scared. When you’re broke. When you’re unsure. Fiercely determined. Because what’s on the other side is worth it. It matters.

So for me this leap of faith and life change took place in the course of one summer (which is often when I choose to shake things up). I started on July 21 and opened my first fitness center on September 11.

It was fast and furious. I had to get my space ready…find it, lease it, gut it, paint, install floors, a front desk, and set up equipment. And market. I went door to door (which wasn’t fun). I learned how to run newspaper ads. I did everything in my power to open that baby in the fastest time period. The truth is I had to. I couldn’t afford not to. Literally…I had no savings, nothing to fall back on. It’s was fly high or crash and burn. I flew.

So I guess I want to convey 2 things:

1. Life is too short and too precious not to love each and every day.

2. If there is something you want to be different in your life, you can make it so.

You may not want to open your own business, but you might want to find work you love. Or get super fit and healthy. Or create something that would be incredibly meaningful to you.

If that’s you, but you’re not sure how to get started, I’d love to help. I’ve created a very unique mentorship & mastermind to teach you what you need to know and practice to go after that something that would increase your life exponentially!

It’s pretty darn cool…you’ll pick 1 goal and we’ll go full out for 4 weeks. I’m a HUGE advocate of short time periods. Because typically, MORE time is not what we need.

What we need is: Guts, determination, focus, momentum, and a BIG reason!  Miracles can happen when those elements exist. The good news…those elements are available to us all. 

So if you want something, something that matters greatly and you can bring guts, determination, focus, and your big WHY…the rest…easy peasy.

Want to play? Send me a message at: Hollie@WellnessSpark.com or hit me up on Facebook.

Here’s to slow days and sparking what matters…to YOU!

Hollie “fiercely determined” Flynn


Stop The Madness!

Stop the Madness  “Man sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. Then he is so anxious about the future that he doesn’t enjoy the present: the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then
dies having never really lived.”
~ The Dalai Lama

I’ve been quiet again. Whenever I go offline I’m either in my creative cave or I’m slowing down to intentionally create space to think, feel, reflect, and reset. I’m intentionally choosing less so I can live more, create more, and feel more.

As much as I appreciate the beauty of the online world and social media to keep us all connected, and to grow businesses (including my own), I am equally aware and respectful of its mighty distraction and soul sucking abilities.

Time. We never get it back. It’s precious. So precious.

Sometimes we have to slow down to speed up. Sometimes we have to unplug to connect to what matters most. We have to create space, get a little quieter, a little less busy, and STOP THE MADNESS.

It is so easy in our fast, busy, social media crazed culture to get carried away without ever asking what truly matters to us. Weeks, months, years and even entire lives can go by without ever stopping and asking:

:: Is this what I really want?
:: Is this how I want to live?
:: Is this how I want to feel?

I don’t want distraction and information overload. I don’t want to be documenting and sharing as I go. I want to BE in my life now. I want Presence.

I don’t want fast. I don’t want to go in a direction that isn’t aligned with my soul. I want slow, deliberate thought and action.

I don’t want busy. I want a fullness of heart. I want a life overflowing with peace, love, fulfillment, connectedness, impact, soul exhilaration, simplicity, creativity, and abundant time in nature. I want time and presence to look into the eyes of those I love.

I want an extraordinary richness in living.

I’m devoted to that richness. That richness brings joy into my heart.

And I admit, I’m a bit obsessed with feeling good. And with helping others to feel good.

“The point of life is happiness.”   – The Dalai Lama

I often feel like running through the streets (or social media threads) shouting “Stop the madness! Just stop it right now!” I want to flag people down on the street and lead them to a quiet little bench and ask, “What are you up to and why? Where’s it leading you? And do you want to go there? Are you happy?”

I know this for sure, you can’t stop when you have more time. You will never have more time. You must choose to stop the madness. It takes discipline to stop the busyness of life to reflect, ask and answer some tough questions, and course correct if needed.

It takes awareness and discipline to stop doing stuff that truly isn’t raising the quality of your life.
And it takes courage to live who you really are and go for what you really want.

When was the last time you stopped, really stopped, sat down and thought about your life?

I invite you to Stop the Madness and set aside 20 minutes to answer the following questions:

::  Am I truly happy?
:: Am I healthy and full of energy?
:: Is my life full, or just busy?
:: Do I often feel rushed, distracted, or overwhelmed?
:: Do I keep chasing things I think will bring me happiness but just don’t?
:: What in my life isn’t really working for me?
:: What do I love or know I want more of?
:: What would my ideal day/life look and feel like?
:: What would make me so happy that I’d jump out of bed each day to begin it?
:: Do I need to course correct?
:: How do I want to feel?
:: How do I create and live that life?
:: Am I BEING who I really want to be?
:: Do I have enough time, energy, and space in my life for those I love?
:: Am I leaning into my highest and truest potential?
:: Am I fully living?

Good Lord Hollie, that’s a lot of questions! Yep, it is. But really, if you aren’t asking these questions what’s it all for anyway? This is your life.

Just think about all the massive energy, time, and money it takes to maintain your day to day living. If this day to day living doesn’t light you up, why for the love of everything holy are you exerting so much of all your resources to maintain it? Why? Truly, what is it all for?

The following are 3 practices I engage in on a regular basis to stop the madness and to keep myself grounded and aligned with living my truth. I invite you to try them out. You may find in one week’s time you feel happier, have more energy, and are connected more to what matters most (to you!).

1. Take a digital detox.

A 3 day detox is ideal, but if it’s not possible due to work, take a 2 day. It doesn’t even have to be a full digital detox. Plan 2-3 days where you will not check email or get on any social media channels. Stay as far away from your computer and phone as possible. Just stopping those two things will be change the energy of your entire body.

I want you to simply notice how you feel.

My first digital detox was a year ago and since then I do them regularly. As an introvert and a business owner, I thought I loved the online world. I wanted to love it. I’ve tried to love it. I STILL keep trying to love it. But my body and spirit keep giving me a radically different experience when I step away.

Notice what is true for you.

2. Get into nature.        DestinyHike

There is a reason why so many speak of nature as “their church” or that it feels like a spiritual experience. It is! Go for trail runs, mountain bikes, or long leisurely hikes. Go for a paddle. Go outside at night and marvel at the stars. Feel the cool breeze on your face. Breathe. Smell the earth. Lay on the ground. Take it all in. Let it nourish you. It will.

This past month I’ve been hiking as much as possible. It’s a different energy than biking or running. I wanted the slower, almost meditative movement of the hike.

There is a deep, primal, soulful part in all of us that is healed and rejuvenated in nature. Again, experiment. Notice how you feel.

 3. Begin a morning ritual.

Start your morning off with getting centered. Learn to direct your mind, and create your day rather than jumping into reactive mode. This is life changing. Journal. Read something that is positive and that nourishes your mind. Meditate. Visualize. Write out your intentions for the day. Connect with how you want to feel.

There is no right or wrong way to do this. 30 minutes is ideal. But even 5, 10, and 15 minutes is life changing.

We all have the power to create our life experiences. We have a choice in how we feel. We have a choice in how we direct our mind, support our body, and connect our spirit.

Stop the madness and step into being the creator of your own masterpiece.

What makes you happy? What fills you up? What truly nourishes you?

Live it fully.

It matters. Your life matters. YOU matter.

And if I pass you on the street…well…hey, you’ve been warned.

Hollie “Stop The Madness” Flynn


Spark Note: How To Feel Better

SP5When you are not living your passions or your purpose you will at best feel bored, restless, and be in continual search for MORE…

If the gap deepens between your purpose and your current reality you may feel anger, bitterness, resentment, and/or depression.

At its worst, it can often look like addictions or chronic illness.

Every cell in your body knows whether you are happy or sad, or if you are living your soul mission. Pay attention to how you are feeling and let those feelings get your attention and guide you.

Those feelings and manifestations are letting you know just how far off course you are. You can course correct at any time.

Let yourself feel what you are feeling and use that powerful information to guide you back to living your passions, and your purpose.

Don’t buy into how life “should” look…that’s all man-made. It’s not real. Express what you want to express. Get in touch with how you really want to live. This is your ‘divine design’…

Live what lights you up.

Immense joy is on the other side.

With Love & Spark!

Are You Playing Your A Game or Your B Game?

2 Or heck, are you even in the game?

My guess is many of you are B-gaming it. I know, I B-gamed it for years. There’s a good chance you might be B-gaming it and you may not even be fully aware of it. Me? I was aware. For y-e-a-r-s I was painfully aware.

The B game is a tricky bastard. It often looks like success. It means you are doing pretty darn well for yourself. You have money, you have recognition. In fact, you are pretty good at what you do. I mean you might even be excellent at what you do, but still… it’s your B game.

The A Game

Now your A game…it’s that thing you’ve always dreamed of doing, but you haven’t yet. I mean because it would just be too good to be true. And really, are you “allowed” to do it? Is life really allowed to be so awesome? Kind of feels like you’d be tempting the Universe, right?

If your A game is pertaining to your life’s work, it is work only you can do and in the way that only you can do it. It’s your zone of genius.  Your A game doesn’t necessarily have to be about your work, although often it is.

Whether it’s work or a way of being in this world, it is you being full out you. You are leaving nothing on the table. You are delivering work that no one else could possibly deliver. You are living in a way that honors every ounce of your soul. You are giving it your all.

It’s usually that thing you’ve been dreaming of and talking about for years.  It’s also that feeling of restlessness and the “more” you are searching for. Those feelings are there to get your attention. They are your call to play your A game.

The A game is what we were born to do. And ironically, that’s exactly why we’re not doing it. For one the B game looks like success and it is at some level. We can easily become too comfortable and complacent there.

While so many other people aren’t even in the game. You know those folks, who work 9-5 or much longer and hate their work, complain about it, yet plan to do nothing to change it. They live for the weekend. And my guess is they watch a lot of TV, especially reality TV. They live through other people’s lives.

But, B gamers are in the game! They are up to big stuff. They look successful to other people and themselves. They are comfortable in life. Doing great work. Making a great living. Making some great contribution. But still, it’s the B game.

Our A games aren’t comfortable. They stretch us. They challenge us. And most painful of all, they expose our greatest fears. Our A game is what we hold closest to our heart. So we protect.

:: It’s the book you want to write, publish, and change the world with.
:: It’s the songs you want to sing, record, and deliver to the world.
:: It’s the jewelry you want to make and set up shop with.
:: It’s the house you want to sell to travel the world.
:: It’s the project that lights your soul on fire.
:: It’s the foundation you want to establish.
:: It’s the race of all races you want to kick ass at.
:: It’s the business you have dreamed of starting.
:: It’s that message, that purpose, that thing that only can be done in the way that you can do it.

And it is so precious to you. It means so much. So much that you will protect it, your ego, and your heart by not doing it. It’s easier to dream about “one day” than to experience the possibility of failing, rejection, or criticism in the here and now.

So instead we play our B game. We do a lot of good stuff. We do a lot of great stuff. Even some freaking excellent stuff. We stay busy. So busy we distract ourselves. We use excuses…not enough time, not enough money, maybe when the kids leave home, maybe if I were single, maybe if I were married, maybe if the economy were better, maybe when I know a little more, maybe when I’m a little more ready…

All excuses. All lies we use to comfort ourselves and let ourselves off the hook of our A Game.

But the truth is we are not ever “off the hook” because each year that goes by, each month, each week, each day, each minute ….it is eating at us at a soul level. We can try to fool ourselves, but deep down we feel the truth.

We are NOT living what we came here to live. We are holding back. We are downplaying our potential. We are waiting. We are dying a little bit each day.

I know for me, my A game is to be a published transformational author who impacts lives on a global scale. I’ve known this for some time. It feels too good to be true. And guess what, there are a ton of great transformational authors who have accomplished this quite easily. And there is a good chance it is their B game.

I’ve been very successful in business. Why? It’s my B game. I can do it really well. And the thought of failing, although unpleasant, doesn’t make me come unglued. It doesn’t touch my heart at a deep level. So I’m willing to take risks. I’m willing to have some fun. I’m willing to do the work because well…it just doesn’t mean as much. Or rather I haven’t attached such a heavy meaning or burden to it. So it’s successful.

But writing a book and it being rejected or criticized? Or, OMGosh, what if I really can’t write anything great? What if I can’t impact lives the way my heart desires at its deepest level. Ouch. That really gets me where it hurts.

I’ve been writing a lot lately. I have one little book complete. One is currently with my editor (yep, loved saying that again!) And I’m working on my 3rd.

And…I feel completely exposed. I feel vulnerable. I feel stretched and challenged. AND I feel immense relief AND exhilaration. I feel on purpose, with purpose like I have never been before.

And that is what living an EPIC life is about. We are meant to feel fear, uncertainty, and doubt. We are meant to stretch, to be challenged, and to grow. We are meant to feel alive, engaged, and exhilarated.

There are two reason why we don’t exceed at playing our A game:

1. We never start. We never get in the game.
2. We give up. We DNF on our biggest dreams.

Actually, there is a 3rd reason, and it’s legit. Many people don’t know what their A game is. It’s been pushed aside and covered up for far too long. It may need to be discovered.

I’m obsessed with helping others discover their A game and then helping them develop the guts to go for it!

Here’s to Sparking Your EPIC!

Strategic Retreat: What is it? And Why I Took One.

Time Out


Strategic Retreat + My “not so new,” but new business.

I’ve been in a period of what I call “strategic retreat”… a time of going inside my head, heart, and soul more. I should say, “more than unusual” because I do hang out in those places a lot. Usually though when I’m in my head and heart…thinking, dreaming, feeling, planning…I am also in massive action mode.

I love to leap. I love risks. I love action. I love knowing what I want and going after it full throttle. Life is short, and there is a lot I want to experience, a lot I want to become. But over the last 6 months, I took myself out of fast action mode and went into retreat mode. I realized to go forward, I needed to go back.

I was at a big crossroads in life. I had recently sold 3 businesses, sold a second home, closed a business, and was divesting out of a 5th business. I had purged a lot of personal belongings, and organized the heck out of everything else in my life. I was on a serious mission.

I was serious about a new chapter in life. Clean sweep. Less is more. Simplicity. Those were my mantras for a few years. And it did take 3 years to “clear my space” because I had built a lot. A lot of amazing things, but the problem was they no longer fit me.

I’m at a point in life where I MUST be in 100% alignment and integrity with everything I do. How I spend my time, who I spend it with, and especially with the work I put out into this world. What or Who I say “Yes” to is very short list. Because to live an EPIC life means saying “no” to most things. Because even too many greats can lead to not so good!

I define EPIC as a life that is Extraordinary, Passion-filled, Inspiring, and Completely aligned. I especially had been feeling that the work I wanted to put out into this world MUST MUST MUST be in 100% alignment this time around. Not 80, not 90, but 100%. I was and am fiercely determined about that.

I had started business #6, Wellness Spark, Inc. a few years back, but I wasn’t really sure the direction I wanted to take it and I didn’t have the time and energy with all the other businesses to figure it out. But this business was where my heart was, even if I couldn’t fully grasp what that was yet. I knew that everything I had ever experienced and accomplished had brought me to this point.

So after all my “clean sweeping, and simplifying” I thought I was ready to roll and started building my business again, but very quickly I sensed I wasn’t going in the direction of my biggest vision, of where I really wanted to go. Something was off. So I stopped. Which was painful, and a very uncomfortable thing for me to do. But sometimes uncomfortable is necessary. And uncomfortable for a short period can lead to extraordinary for a very long period.

I wasn’t convinced my path was right or the destination was where I really even wanted to go in the first place. I take that stuff seriously. Life is short.

Strategic retreat mode for me was about stopping for a bit and figuring out exactly where I was in my life, and more importantly WHO I am, and from there exactly where I wanted to go. The truth is sometimes we get off course. And the truth is sometimes we have to let go of awesome dreams that simply no longer fit.

It’s not about the easy, comfortable path, or even the financially abundant path, it’s about the right path. Right for me. Right for you. That’s what matters.

I knew with what I was feeling that massive action would just carry me farther away from my desired destination. I would be busy and perhaps “successful” but not fulfilled and on fire with what I was building. I wanted ON FIRE! I needed to do some soul searching, ask the right questions, and reorient my life map from there. I needed to retreat a bit to do so. That was the smartest and most strategic thing I could do.

Some of you know, I co-own Odyssey Adventure Racing (this would be company #5), and we put on Adventure Races where you have to navigate the course (biking, running, paddling) with map and compass. There are no volunteers directing you, no flagging or markers to clue you in. You have to know where you are on the map at all times and navigate from there. In these adventure races it is more important that you are going in the right direction over a fast direction. I mean fast is awesome, especially if you are racing, but ultimately it doesn’t matter how fast you are going if it’s the wrong way. Go in the right direction first, then fast.

I’ll repeat that: “It is more important you are going in the right direction, than a fast direction!”

Same is true in life. It’s so easy to get caught up in what we think is “forward movement” simply because we are busy and going fast. But that doesn’t mean we are going in the direction we really want to be going.
And sometimes “success” as defined by society is not truly our “forward movement” in life. We are here to live what we love, full out. Happiness is the goal. The Dalai Lama says that, so you know it’s true!

Another thing in Adventure Racing, when you’re out in the woods, in the mountains and you are lost, turned around, or just suspecting you might not be where you think you are …do you know what you do? You go back to your last known point of origin. It’s hard to make yourself do it. You feel like you are losing time and that you will waste precious energy by going back or by stopping to make sure you are going in the right direction. But the truth is, if you don’t go back or stop, you will most likely exert way more time and energy in the long run. And you may not ever hit your desired point or destination. It’s a strategic retreat.

So the moral of this story:

1. Not only is it OK to slow down or stop, it’s critical to ultimately getting to where you really, really deep in your soul want to go.
2. It’s more than OK to ask yourself what I call “the right questions” or the tough questions.
3. Please for the love of all holy, REFLECT more. Listen to what comes up for you.
4. It’s normal to feel like you don’t have time to slow down. But understand  it’ll save you so much in time, energy, money, and blood, sweat, and tears (OK, maybe that’s just my life!) in the long run.
5. Your happiness matters. The Dalai says so!
6. Your life can look any way you want it. But you have to know what you want.
7. Yes, it might (as in “it will!) take time and work to reorient your life map.
8. The aliveness, alignment, and fulfillment are so worth it!

By the way, I’m full speed ahead with my “not so new” but NEW business. Guess what it’s all about:

EPIC Lifestyle Design + Personal Development + Kick Ass Adventures

And you know what that feels like? Completely Aligned. Completely me.

I’ve also designed a couple of offerings for those of you who are ready to spark YOUR most EPIC life. You can check those out here:
Maverick Mentorship
The EPIC Life Experience

If this helped you or might help someone you know please share or forward along! I’m on a mission to bust the status quo and inspire a revolution of EPIC Living. This happens when we start living our dreams, our highest potential, and life on our terms!

And if you haven’t joined my newsletter – The Spark, hop on below!

Hollie “On Fire!” Flynn

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How to Change Your Life this Summer…

summer deals!

Do you think change, going after big goals,or transforming your life has to take a lot of time?

The truth…all those things are way less about time and way more about focus and momentum. And guts.

You must have the courage to take the first step.  The courage to decide.

To decide YOU are worth it.

I’ve become a master of achieving BIG FEATS in short amounts of time. Of course, on my side is the fact that I lack patience of any kind and I’m naturally wired to cut-to-the chase, and get things done. When I want something, I want it. Like Now.

There is so much to learn and experience in life that we must be very careful not to let the years fly by without really living. Thinking and reflecting are fantastic things…I do both often. But THINKING about something and TALKING about it for years and never acting….not so fantastic.

Short periods of time have energy, momentum, and power that will never exist in longer periods or in drawn out processes.

In 30 days, 60 days, 90 days..


:: You feel incredible in your body. You’re fit and lean, you exude radiance and vitality. You feel a personal power and confidence you haven’t felt…in years, perhaps even decades. You have the energy to go after your dreams, climb that mountain (literally!), and you know your body is up for all the EPIC hiking, running, biking, travel and life adventures you dream of!

:: You love your work. You’re no longer stuck in a 9-5 that feels soul sucking. You have the confidence to start your own business and express your gifts into the world. You have freedom, flexibility and life on your terms. Or what if you simply went after that dream job and got it! What would it feel like to love Monday as much as Friday? To never again live for weekends and vacations because “everyday life” is really quite awesome.

:: If you knew your purpose.  What if for the first time ever you really knew YOU.  What if you understood what made you tick. What if you could weave together your values, passions, gifts, strengths, and life experiences and see clearly the masterpiece that is your life? The masterpiece that is you. How would if feel to find your place in this world. For everything to make sense.

If you could transform your life this summer, what would it look like? What would be incredibly meaningful to you? What would be life changing?

Some of my Summer transformations have included:

:: Losing 25 pounds and getting super fit.  (Summer 1991)

::  Getting my 5k time down from 25 minutes to my *PR of 21:45. (you 5kers know how hard it is to
shave time!)  (Summer 2001)

* I hit a new PR (21:44) last summer (2014)– 13 years later at the age of 43 (we can’t use age as an excuse!)

:: Deciding on May 30 to get married and then using the summer to work, plan, and pay for all of it myself. Married August 22.  (Summer 1992)

:: After almost 10 years….made the difficult and RIGHT decision to divorce. (Summer 2001)

:: Deciding to open my first fitness center in June and doing it by September.
(Summer 1998).

:: Deciding to open my 2nd fitness center in June of 1999 and doing it by September 1999.

:: Deciding to open my 3rd fitness center in June of 2000 and doing it by September 2000.

::  Selling all 3 of my fitness centers. (June 2012).

I don’t look at any of the above as good or bad but as all of these things being forward progress.  We can either bring in new to our life that improves and expands it or we can let go of things that no longer serve to improve, grow, and expand.

If we never do either we are just stagnant. We are living, moving beings…the less we move, grow, and expand in life, the more we die. It may not look that way on the outside, but on the inside we feel it.

How would you choose to transform this summer?

What would be the one thing that if you did it by summer’s end, you would look back on it
and say– “Wow! I’m so proud of myself.”  or “Whew! That so needed to happen.”  or “Holy
Moly that was epic!” — because it’s not too late.

If you could use an intuitive guide + life strategist on your side, I’d love to support and inspire you to live your greatest life.  Here’s how we can work together NOW (because NOW is always an excellent time).  YOUR Summer Adventure: 4 Week Maverick Mastermind.


Two Unconventional Things You Can Start Doing Today to Get Your Life on Track

This is the number 1 question I’ve gotten in the last decade.

What is the secret to my success? 

Most people want to know how I know what I know, especially in business. Did I get it from my parents? Nope. My Dad was a blue collar worker and my Mom a stay at home mom. Do I have a business degree? Nope. I have a B.S. in Psychology which typically gets you a nice job waiting tables (which I did for 8 years!).

But at age 26, I jumped into entrepreneurship, opening three fitness centers in three years. I then bought an existing company and invested in real estate. By my early 30s, I was a millionaire (which was really strange for me to get my head around). To be clear, I was not earning a million, but I had established a nice 6 figure income and had built up assets in business and homes that reached over 1 million.

I also had some pretty significant accomplishments by most peoples standards outside of business. I completed marathons, competed and placed high in triathlons, and running events. I raced in a 36 hour long Adventure Race (biking, running, paddling, navigating carrying all food/water and no sleep!). 

I bought  my second dream home in 2008 and started two new companies all while  raising a young daughter as a single chic-a-dee.

Some folks see me as highly driven. But I’m actually pretty laid back, and I’m motivated entirely by freedom. Freedom to ride my bike, eat good food, read lots of books, and catch some great movies. I love being at home and tend to be quite an introvert.

So even though I’m pretty laid back, I seem to have harnessed some mighty power that has led to some pretty great successes. I have observed that I often experience, expand, risk, and accomplish more in one year than most do in a decade or heck, even their entire lives.

I continually get asked:  How do you do it?

What I’m not laid back about is sharing with others how I can help them get what they want. I’m passionate about that. And the awesome part is that anyone can begin using this stuff right now.

So what’s my secret?

The foundation of all my successes and accomplishments is built  from understanding and working two things.

 #1  I Ask One Question Every Morning. I ask myself (every single day) is this what I want? I mean, I literally wake up and think about my day and if I am not excited to jump out of bed and get going then something isn’t working. And I don’t ACCEPT that. I say, “OK, what’s going on here? What is it about today, I don’t like? What in my life isn’t working? What do I need to do to change?” And I get busy on that. Immediately.

Sometimes I don’t have the answers. I don’t’ know what to do, so I get busy with the search and continually reflect and ask myself questions until I know what the next step is.

I know I’m the creator of my life. Once you create the life you love, it’s easy to tweak here and there and stay on course, so even as life changes and grows, you still wake up with, “Awesome, I love my life.” Or you might just need to dig into one area and course correct.

And yes, if you haven’t asked this question in a long time, you might have A LOT to change. That’s OK, get busy. Pick one area and get going. It’s up to you my friend.

Know what makes you happy. Know what brings you a fulfilling life. Do the work. Check in with yourself every single day.


#2  I THINK and LIVE outside of conventionality. Since I was a kid, I have never blindly believed or adopted what my parents (sorry Mom & Dad!) or teachers shared with me or taught. I have never bought into the standards and norms of society. I have never played by anyone else’s rules. Now in my 40s, I still don’t. Living MY TRUTH is the only operating system I use.

Are you creating your own life or living one designed by society?

So how can you begin to use these two principles to accomplish ANYTHING you want?

First, learn to listen to your gut, your internal GPS (this is Divine Guidance or what I call your Inner Spark). We all have it although it may be buried under a lot of shoulds, expectations, and old programming.

To turn on your GPS you must slow down, become aware, tune in, ask the tough questions, listen, and feel. What is it that you really really want? What’s coming up for you? Remember true lasting success is about happiness and fulfillment. It is not about chasing THE dream life, but about building YOUR dream life. Understand the difference. You have the only blueprint that matters.

Second, trust yourself. Stop asking for permission and approval. Stop expecting other people to get you or understand your dreams. Stop collecting votes for the go ahead. You’ll never have enough. You only need one vote…yours.

Get that to be truly successful, you DON’T want to follow the majority or the masses. At least not at this time in history, unless you view the majority as thriving, happy, healthy, and jumping out of their beds each day for another day of passion filled living! If that is what you see out there, then by all means follow. But if that isn’t what you see, know your path isn’t “out there” — it is inside of you. You have all the answers for you IN you. Trust.

Don’t buy into the illusion of security. Good grades, good job, benefits, playing it safe.

Look in, then step out.

The riskiest thing we can do is not live the life we were MEANT to live. So THINK about what you really REALLY want. Spark your passions. Create your own masterpiece. Live your purpose.

That is Success.


With SPARK (Spirit, Passion, Adventure, & Rule Breaking Knowledge),